I found out this past February that my husband had an emotional and then physical affair with a coworker. Through this coming to light, I became aware of problems that we had in the marriage—problems that I had—that helped me understand why he did what he did, as wrong as it was. I don’t take credit for his actions, his choices are his, but I can be understanding of why he did what he did. I have chosen to forgive him. I want nothing more than healing and restoration to our marriage. In the first few months prior to now, he was attending marriage counseling with me. Due to some church struggles happening in addition to this, my husband chose to quit attending counseling. He says he doesn’t love me and doesn’t want to be married to me, but he also says he knows God doesn’t like divorce, so we are currently just living in this sort of co-parenting roommate situation…and I hate it. From the beginning of everything, I have really felt God telling me to wait on Him, that my marriage will be restored, and I have no interest in pursuing divorce either. IF divorce is going to be in our future, my conviction is that he needs to be the one to leave/initiate, not me. But as I said, this is not what I want, nor is that what I believe my future holds. I really do think God has promised me restoration. That being said, I am really struggling in the waiting. I am so tired of being stuck in this situation for months upon end! So I wanted to reach out and ask for prayer because, while I have been a Christian for the majority of my life, I am just now learning how important and powerful prayer is, and I would really love to have an army of prayer warriors lifting my husband and I before God! I have also learned in the past few months that my husband has struggled with a porn addiction during our marriage. His family background is such that his parents didn’t teach him to deal with emotions, but rather to just bury everything. I can’t presume to know God’s path for us or what is the best thing to pray for, but I really do believe counseling can help my husband in sorting through his emotions and his addiction, so I would appreciate if you could pray for that. But ultimately, I believe my husband is mainly dealing with a heart issue between him and Jesus. Please pray that he will get his heart right with God and in so doing, hopefully right with me as well. Thank you in advance for your prayers.
Heavenly Father, we lift Anna and her husband before You today. You see every wound, every fear, and every hope in their hearts. Lord, we ask that You pour out Your healing upon their marriage, bringing restoration, forgiveness, and new life where brokenness has taken root. Touch her husband’s heart, soften it, and draw him back into right relationship with You. Heal the pain, confusion, and emotional burdens he carries, and break every chain of addiction that has kept him bound. Father, guide him to the help, counseling, and support he needs so he can walk in freedom and truth. Strengthen Anna as she waits on You, fill her with patience, peace, and unwavering faith. Surround them both with Your love and let Your will be done in their home. We trust You, Lord, to redeem what has been wounded and to lead them into a future filled with hope, unity, and renewed love. Amen.
Dear God, we pray for healing, health, restoration, forgiveness, reconciliation, patience, love, compassion, communication, support, unity, endurance, etc for this marriage. We pray You will intervene, soften their hearts and direct them towards You so they can have a healthy, happy partnership in their marriage under You. If counseling is needed, we pray You will give them a willing spirit to do whatever is necessary to restore their relationship. We pray You will break any chains of addiction and give them the strength to walk away from temptations of the enemy. We pray You will give them the comfort, peace, willingness to hold on through the storms, and faith and trust in You so they can build and lasting marriage. In Jesus’ name, amen.